TAKING THE COMMANDING POSITION with FENG SHUI

In Feng Shui, the position of the bed and desk can support your teen in feeling in command of their life, getting better sleep, increased focused, as well as confidence and more security in relationships!

Taking the Commanding Bed Position promotes security in relationship with self and others, as well an improves sleep. Follow these steps below for the ideal arrangement!

1.    A full view of the room with the door in sight is optimal from where they are sleeping for feeling empowered.

2.    Not being able to see the door triggers the old reptilian brain’s flight or fight response system and it basically leaves us feeling exposed, on guard and unsafe.

3.    Make sure that the bed is against a solid wall for security and support.

4.    Stay clear of placing bed under a window.

Taking the Commanding Desk Position encourages focus and concentration and will support your teen in feeling on top of their homework! 

1.    Make sure they are sitting in a chair with a straight back (no gaps)

2.    Their back must be up against a solid wall (no window)

3.    Clear view of the door from where they are sitting.

4.    Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense blockage and stagnation.

Virtual Command Position:  When your teen’s view of the door is obstructed they may be missing important opportunities since they can’t see what’s flowing in and out of their life. If you absolutely can’t change the position of your teen’s desk or bed, then help them get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? Virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you’re sleeping or working.

There is a web site that sells rearview type mirrors for computers, which would put them in the virtual command position. Check www.monitormirror.com. However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you.

If you can’t figure this out, feel free to email me pictures of their room and I will give you feedback!

Feng Shui is all about creating uplifting environments where we can thrive! Sometimes that means letting go of those things that no longer serve us. The objects in your teen’s room are either empowering or not empowering them and can effect everything from self-worth to productivity.

Clutter can stagnate energy and feels like an overall drain! Support your teen in moving into a deeper conscious relationship with their bedroom by educating them about the benefits of a clutter-free, mindfully-arranged bedroom.

Sometimes the best way to motivate your teen into making a change is by doing it yourself first! So if you haven’t done it already, be a role model and implement this step by step process.

Also, remember, when clearing clutter,turn on some music, put on your red shoes and have some fun! The way you do anything is the way you do everything. If you or your teen is saying, “Yuck I hate my room” while you are cleaning your home it takes away from your good Mojo and defeats the purpose!

1.      Encourage your teen to ask these questions of every object in their room:

·         Do I Love?

·         Do I Need It?

·         Does It Represent Me? 

·         Have I used it In the Last 6 Months?

 If they don’t love it or use it, then it’s time to lose it!

2.      Provide 5 Boxes for the Release!

Box 1: Throw Away

Box 2. Give Away, EBay

Box 3. Keep, But Store

Box 4. Not Sure. Anything your teen is unsure of goes into this box and gets stored away for 6 months.  If after 6 month they can name what’s in the box, or have used any of the objects in the box, then they can keep them, if not, then they have to Lose it!

Box 5: Invite them to keep a Transitional Box somewhere in the room for things that seep in from other sections. Ask them to commit to checking the box once a week and putting things back in their respective homes, before overwhelm and chaos ensue.

3.      Mindfully Arrange Your Room By Creating Clear Functional Zones

Name them like, “Sleep Zone,”  “Work/Study Zone,” ” Art Zone”, etc.  Identify which objects belong in their correct zones. This will help with creating clarity and balance in their mind between the various areas in their life as well as in their space.  Make sure one zone always remains a “Clutter Free Zone,” as a foundation for future progress.

Make this process fun by encouraging your teen to invite friends for support, turn on music, have a release party,  and set up a timeline for achieving their goal. Further help them by creating a budget for containers, cork boards, under bed storage units and anything else that will help them maintain the cosmos in their bedroom.

What surrounds your home can influence your Feng Shui as much as what is inside of your home.

Let me show you how to draw the positive energy of your surroundings to you!

One of the most important enhancements to creating optimal Feng Shui is the entry to your home.

Ideally, your front door area should be well lit, aesthetically pleasing, clearly indicated as the entry, inviting, charming, and give an impression of the home’s tenants. If your front door isn’t visible from the road, then its possible that the chi will pass you by.

Here are some Feng Shui power tools to activate the path leading up to your front door:

1. Illuminate the path of chi to your door with lanterns and lamps.

2. A greeter (statue) welcome good chi!

3.  A water fountain invites abundance, opportunities and creates tranquility.

4. A Chime awakens the chi!

5. A healthy vibrant plant or tree by your front door will strengthen and draw good chi!

6. A friendly saying or door hanging invites both good chi and friendly people.

7. Clear dry shrubs, weeds, or anything unpleasant that may be weakening your chi.

8. Make sure there are no obstructions or anything blocking the door and your good chi.

9. The sound the door makes can condition your chi and experience of your home. Use oil/wd40 to counteract screechy whiny doors.

10.  A bright red, gold, blue, or green floor mat will energize this area.

11. If you enter through the garage, make it a practice to enter through the front door regularly to keep the chi flowing and circulating.

12. If you live in an indoor apartment/condo building and there isn’t much you can do to the outside of your front door due to building regulations, then work to enhance the immediate foyer area by hanging a crystal, a mirror, a fountain and any of the above will work just as well to invite good chi into your life.

Remember having an inviting entry way can summon good chi and enhance your life force energy. Making it attractive draws in the energy you need to accomplish anything you want in life!

Anytime you make a Feng Shui adjustment to your home, make sure to couple it with your intention. Intention is the motor behind Feng Shui.

As a matter of fact, I would say that Intention is the motor behind mostly everything. Before there was man, there was the creators’ intent for man.Before there were planes, car and computers there was mans’ intent for ways of making life easier and more efficient.

Many people don’t realize that they are practicing Feng Shui every day. Anytime you bring mindfulness to anything you do, you are practicing the art of placement.

By placing your attention onto your intention,  all things flow to you and life becomes a river of abundance.

When I think about my life and how I use intention, my mind is drawn to those moments where I feel most stuck, overwhelmed, confused and hopeless. It is at those times that I go still, cease what ever I am doing, get in touch with myself trough my breath and ask the creator/universe for light, love and to lift me from the place inside where I feel funky.

Sometimes it happens right away and at other times I go about my day and a few hours pass annd I think, Wow, I’m feeling particularly good, how did this happen? Then I remember that moment where I practiced the art of Feng Shui. That moment were I placed my intention for the universe to lift my negativity and support me.

Next time you are feeling like you want to give up or like everything seems to be going wrong, stop what you are doing, take a breath, look inside and ask for divine assistance. You won’t regret it. I promise.

Whether you’re in a corner suite, a cubicle, or home office, Feng Shui can help you create more harmony, flow and productivity in your work. There are several excellent Feng Shui configurations that promote more success in your career

Here are 3 things you can do right now to promote more flow and harmony in your office

1.    Place yourself in the Commanding position:In Feng Shui, the position of your desk can support you in feeling more empowered and in command of your life!

·         Make sure to sit in a chair with a straight back (no gaps-they leak life force energy)

·         Your back must be facing a solid wall (no window)

·         Make sure you have a clear view of the door from where you are sitting.

·         Don’t face a wall; this can create a sense of blockage and stagnation in your career. If there’s no way around it, then get a mirror or a picture that creates the illusion of depth and expansion .

·         If you can’t change the position of your desk, then get into the virtual command position. The virtual what? The virtual command means that you position a mirror in such a way so that you can see the door from wherever you are sleeping or working. That way, you don’t actually have to move your location. There is a web site that sells rear view type mirrors for computers, which would put you in the virtual command position. Check www.monitormirror.com.However, any mirror will serve the same purpose-as long as you can see what’s behind you

2.    If you’re Walls Could Talk What Would the Say about You?

Studies show that people know more about you from looking in your room for 15 seconds than talking with you at a party for 30 minutes. Use the walls in your office to send a powerful message about you.

·         Impression Wall: Use the wall behind your desk to make a strong impression and send a message about you and/or

           your company to the world.

·         Mastery Wall:  Make one wall or section of your office depict your skill and training. Items such as awards, certificates,

          pictures of  wise mentors and achievements work well here. In Feng Shui terms, the best area for this is the “Skills/Wisdom”

          section, which is the right hand corner closest to the front door.

·               Inspiration Wall/Area: Surround yourself with things you truly love. The best wall for inspiration is the one directly

                 in front of your desk. What you focus on grows, so use this wall to condition your thoughts in the direction of your desires.

3.    Bring in the 5 elements: Water, Fire, Earth, Metal and Wood to create a human comfort zone.

Have you wondered why most office buildings include a park or an atrium? A happy worker is a productive worker. Proximity to nature affects our physiology in real measurable ways. In Feng Shui, that is why we strive to create nature indoors. Even if you feel like  you are flooded with so much work that you don’t have the time to walk outside or muse over your fish tank, or the well groomed bonsai, do not feel deterred, by having touches of nature in your environment, you can re-connect to the natural world in a very real, deep and meaningful way.

Here are some ways of introducing these elements into your office:

·         Water: Encourages flexibility, intuition, and new opportunities. Use a water fountain, a picture of water closest to the entry way, or in the far left hand corner.

·         Wood: Secures foundation in all ventures. Plants, bamboo and live flowers will bring in life force energy and a wooden desk will give stability in relationships.

·         Metal: Inspires creativity. Introduce bells, standing chimes, or anything that makes a pleasant sound.

·         Earth: Ensures Stability through difficult times. Ceramics, yellow, sand, rocks, etc.

·         Fire: Improves and protects reputation. Candles, lights, pointy objects like cactus, pyramids, etc

Last, but not least, make sure your desk is clutter fee. The most successful people in the world have clean desks. The less stuff on your desk the more space in your mind for generating brilliant new ideas!

Stuff, Stuff, Stuff!!! Who doesn’t have at least one thing they cant live without? Whether it be your Starbucks latte in the morning that makes you 10 minutes late for work, or those Jimmy Choo shoes on sale at Sacks that you absolutely must have,  or another little black dress to add to your collection of cocktail attire, we  all have at least one piece of “STUFF” that

we hold onto for dear life!

If you’re anything like me, you have two or more. Come to think about it you may have 4 or more.

I’m talking here about  the old pictures you hang onto and never look at that are in the garage, or worse under your bed, or how about the clothing from 1960 that you keep around for your grandchildren, the stuffed animals from childhood, the poetry from your former flames that reminds you of how hot you “used to be”,  and all the Journals from 5th grade that are holding you in some form of adolescence, and wait what about all of those socks that have lost their mates, but you know that one day some day you will find the other pair, so you have a collection of onzees for an eternity. Not to mention your single status has been on place for just about as long.

In Feng Shui, the quality of your chi (life force energy) determines the quality of your life, which is determined by the quality of your….

ENVIRONMENTAL ANIMATION.

I’m not talking about the Bugs Bunny kind of animation folks!
Environmental animation is likened to really good Chi, like really good sushi vs. grocery quality.

Chi is everywhere and it’s not like you are ever at a loss.  It’s just that some chi is more “animated” and some is.. well I hate to use this word, but DEAD!

When I walk into peoples homes, I can clearly see the quality of their chi in their living environments. Animated chi has an overall purpose and a lively joyful quality, wheres dead chi would rather be dead, pun definitely intended.
Here are some basic mathematical equations of Feng Shui that will help you in working through your Stuff.

• Stuff = energy
• Energy doesn’t always =  stuff
• The more energy you have, the better you feel=all of the time!
• The more stuff you have, the better you feel=never, or short lived
• Things you love = Mucho Animation
• Things you don’t=DEAD ENERGY
  Clutter =DEAD ENERGY
  
• More space=more energy=more opportunities, money, cool experiences, people, travel, rest,peace, well-being etc
• Less Space = More of the same

James Hillman,  a great modern day psychologist

contended that non-human objects also have souls. I know its hard to process that your Coach hand bag has a soul, or that your shag slippers your ex gave you have one too, but I’m not kidding you. I believe it was Thomas Moore who said that all objects contain a motor  quality, which means they are running and some are running out of gas, so make sure you can tell the difference.

Caveat: For those people that have a more serious problem  and have either classified themselves or been professionally diagnosed with “Hoarding”,  then my Simple Clutter Busters Tips below may not be enough to support your healing and growth at this time.  I have been in homes where the degree of stuff grows in proportion to a persons level of mental/emotional/physical and spiritual  well-being and you may need more support.

If you find that your attachment with your stuff is overpowering you , please visit the resource page below for help:

Get Help With Hoarding

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 Bust your Stuff Baby! 3 Steps to Clear the Clutter

1. Ask:

• Do I need it?
• Do I love it?
• Does it make me feel good?
• Does it support my intention or inspire me?
•  Does it belong here (if not move it to where it does!)
• Have I used it in the last 6 months?

2. Decide

If the Answer is “NO” then…………

Give it away, throw it away or ebay!

If the Answer is “I don’t know” then…..

Put it in a box date it, come back in 6 months with a trusted friend and if you can’t name everything in that box then its “Clutter” and give, throw or ebay.

3. If the Answer is “Yes” then… it’s a “Lovable” and you can Keep it!!

***If your stuff feels bigger then you, please grab a chair, or a latter and literally get “bigger” then your stuff. Tell the stuff who is boss and decide that you want to live a life full of freedom, joy, bills, abundance and ANIMATED CHI!

“You know youre in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” Dr. Suess

Did you know that the bedroom is the hub of love and that when things get funky or awry in your love life, then the first place to make Feng Shui enhancements is always to the bedroom! Moreover, creating a nurturing bedroom can support you in moving into a deeper conscious relationship with yourself, which is so essential to manifesting a partner!

Regardless of where you are in the process of attracting your “one,” Feng Shui from the Heart will provide you with sure fire tools to align your home with your heart’s desire!

In Feng Shui for Love you will…

•  Develop a vision of your ideal mate!
• Release inner and outer blocks to love
• Receive powerful tips for de-cluttering your love life!
• Learn Feng Shui cures for turning your bedroom into a sanctuary for love!

Where: Philosophy & Tea, 13850 Bel-Red Rd

Bellevue, WA 98008

When: April 29, 7:30-9:30PM

Cost: $25 at the door & 20 in advance

Space in limited, to RSVP please call 425-891-6242

A few years ago, I made a transformational journey to Bali, Indonesia to study Space Clearing with Karen Kingston the clutter and space clearing expert. Even before my trip, I began to slowly release some of the “stuff” that had been bogging down my consciousness and life.

Her philosophy is that everything has energy in it and even if you can’t see it -on some level it’s either depleting or giving you positive energy. For example, things you hold onto out of fear, worry, concern, lack or guilt would be considered energy drainers, but things you keep around you because they make a positive impression on your life would be considered energy enhancers-not in her exact words, but this is the way I have interpreted it and teach it to my students.

One of the things I always encourage myself and my clients to release is ex-memorabilia-especially if it’s from a relationship that is toxic-but really any relationship that has your thoughts and feelings in a holding pattern. If you’re life is filled with stuff from memory lane, then it’s really challenging to live fully in the present and receive the newness this moment has to offer you. Especially a new partner!

Let the truth be told.

Up until those weeks before my trip, I had been holding onto a box of “stuff” from a very brief but blistering relationship. Actually that’s not completely accurate. Technically speaking the “stuff” wasn’t in my house. I had to give the stuff to a friend to hold at her apartment, so I wouldn’t be tempted to look at it every 3 months, 3 weeks, 3 days, 3 hours, 3 minutes, 3 seconds.

The box sat in her apartment and although I never saw it, I was still connected to it. The very fact that I couldn’t have it around says that it still brought up old feelings that were unprocessed. A part of my denial was the story I told myself that the stuff was art. I felt it was disrespectful to throw it away. I had huge plans to do something creative with it. Like write a script or make a collage out of it. The idea that I would make it into art is what I call holding onto unfinished business for a someday one day that most likely never comes. Clearly I use myself as the guinea pig for my theories.  I was never going to make art out of it and was just holding onto it and let’s be honest folks, because I wasn’t over the guy, no matter how unhealthy the relationship had been.

It was not until a week before I left to Bali and caught the momentum of the deep clearing work I was about to partake in when I finally mustered the courage and with the support of my dear friend took the package and threw it in the ocean.

It wasn’t that easy and not just because I feared a  group of  environmentalists would catch me and give me a ticket for polluting the ocean, but because the package came sailing right back to my feet both times I tossed it into the rolling waves.

Out of frustration and desperation, I tore apart the package and ripped each page into tiny pieces and blessed it. I thanked the man whose words were now bleeding threw the pages. I thanked him for opening me, for gifting me with his love and once again released it into the ocean. I released the jewels and all the bling he gave me too. I kept blessing and releasing until all that was left was the fruit printed wall paper packaging I had used to keep all those pages and gifts together in one bundle.

It was then when I, or should I say my dear friend that was there with me for support, made the startling realization that part of the reason, I hadn’t manifested a new lover was quite simply because this man had stock in my yoni!

For all who don’t know that word yet, a yoni is a woman’s vagina.

Yes, out of sight was not out of mind, or out of my energy grid. I was still connected to him on many levels through these romantic offerings he had given me, but not anymore. I took back my energy. I thought it would be much more devastated by the loss of the art, but I realize that I gained much more. I transmuted the gift through the cleansing waters of the ocean. The part of myself I had given away was mine again.

I got my yoni back!

Please join me and dating strategist Damona Resnick, for a complimentary tele-seminar that will support you in preparing and attracting the love of your life!!!

To register, for more info, and to receive your complimentary call in number, please visit: http://www.dearmrsd.com/email/lessons/

Clutter may be anything you hold onto that is unfinished, unused, unresolved, tolerated or disorganized. It’s not just your stuff, but it’s the people and the situations you stay in, and the negative thoughts that get stuck in your head. In this workshop we will not only support you in clearing and releasing your physical and mental clutter, but in creating the life you want with Feng Shui!!

Are you ready to create an environment that empowers, stimulates and supports you?

In this workshop, you will learn………

· The 9 Classic Feng Shui Cures and how to apply them to Correct Any Imbalance!

· The Top 10 organizing Challenges and their Solutions!

· The 4 D’s of Releasing Clutter!

· How to Turn a Bedroom Blunder into Heart-Centered Wonder!

· And Much More

TO RESERVE your spot, please phone Inessa at 310.926.2722, or 425.894.1783, or email her fengshuifromtheheart@yahoo.com

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Your Instructors:

Karen Embree, a professional organizer for 7 years, supports individuals in organizing their homes, offices and lives. She developed the Fresh Beginnings Workshop, an interactive program which assists participants to clear their mind clutter and connect with their heart’s desires. Karen has been featured on the KLBC.org radio show ALL THINGS ORGANIZED and interviewed in Orange Coast Magazine. As a member of the professional organizations NAPO and ONOC, she is a noted speaker, organizing coach and workshop facilitator. You can contact Karen on the web at www.Cr8vOrganizedSolutions.com.

Inessa Freylekhman was worked as a Feng Shui practitioner for 8 years,a Relationship Coach & Teen Empowerment Trainer. She holds a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology. Her work has appeared in LA Yoga Magazine, on KPFK, Star 98.7 (in LA) & KKNW 1150 AM in Seattle and on various Internet Radio Talk Shows.She currently resides in Seattle and her mission is to Feng Shui One Home & One Heart At A Time. You can contact her on the web at www.fengshuifromtheheart.com or
425.894.1783 (WA) 310.926.2722 (LA)

“Healing One Room, One Heart at a Time” Inessa

“I call her the Mary Poppins of Feng Shui. She immediately spotted the weak areas in my home, and in my life, and
using a combination of coaching skills and Feng Shui art, suggested “remedies” that call me into a deeper
conscious relationship with myself and my world. I now feel much better at my desk-my holy space for writing and creating-as well as generally in my home, I highly recommend that you give yourself this gift!”
Elana Golden, Screenwriter, director, teacher, Founder of The Writing Studio